Posted by: watchman | April 15, 2009

Lying Liars and the Reasons They Lie

Botolff has mentioned a few times the frustrations that a lying, cowardly church caused him. This is an infection in the American Church. I am a part of this infection. At my current church, there are a few tough conversations I need to have, yet I avoid them like the plague. Confession: It has even come to the point of lying.

Why do I lie?

Psychology Today‘s website has an article about this (click here). Snippet:

Your lying comes from chronically recoiling from confrontation, no matter how minor. You might be imagining a frightful battle, or really hurt feelings, if you just tell the truth. Instead, lying creates the proverbial tangled web that clutters your life with half-remembered excuses.

When your fear of disappointing others reaches the critical point of self-abnegation and lying, it’s time to re-think and readjust. It’s nice to make others feel good, but not at the expense of one’s integrity, because it sets up a message to yourself that your feelings count less than the person to whom you are lying. That’s not good for either of you.

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Does this sound like many in church leadership to you? Thoughts?

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