Posted by: Botolff | July 25, 2010

“…evil rarely shows itself as bad.” – Bold Love

For some reason, this quote felt incredibly relevant and important today…

“Evil is bad.  That is, it is persistently destructive.  But it is also deceitfully subtle.  Consequently, evil rarely shows itself as bad.  In fact, it often portrays itself as helpful, open, kind, generous, long-suffering.” – Bold Love

Most of the times when we are abuse victims, we struggle to gain people’s ears and empathy.  This is even more the case with the family or community members in which severe abuse takes place.  Why?  Because the one(s) perpetrating the abuse doesn’t seem evil, or wouldn’t seem like they would do such evil things.  Maybe we should consider that, if they seemed evil to people, it’s not as likely they would have been able to get away with the abuse.  Some wicked people are even convinced they themselves are not evil.  Instead, being “deceitfully subtle,” they have found a way to portray themselves as “helpful, open, kind, generous, long-suffering”.  Which often causes family or community members to be too scared to question what we see, even though things just don’t seem right.  We have a hard time believing our experience, because it just doesn’t match up with the typical presentation of the one perpetrating the abuse.  Instead, what often happens is that the anger that is built up inside us, because of the in-congruency we are experiencing, ends up coming out against the victim, especially when we/they speak up.  That allows us to get the emotion that the perpetrators have created in us out of our bodies (similar to what the victim is doing by speaking up),  while allowing us to shirk any responsibility we have to care for the victim and address the real problem.  Evil loves to pitch a tent in the center of people’s cowardice.  Solution?  More curiousity, more commitment, more courage.  Without those things, and others I’m sure, more abuse will take place.  It’s not whether or not it will, it’s when it will, and who will pay the price.  Almost always, our children will suffer the most; and unless the issues are addressed, many will go on to be twice the abusers we were.

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Responses

  1. Wow! Thanks for that! I can relate – it makes so much sense.

  2. It’s so sad to me that you can relate Keelie. Unfortunately many people can.

  3. […] For some reason, this quote felt incredibly relevant and important today… “Evil is bad.  That is, it is persistently destructive.  But it is also deceitfully subtle.  Consequently, evil rarely shows itself as bad.  In fact, it often portrays itself as helpful, open, kind, generous, long-suffering.” – Bold Love Most of the times when we are abuse victims, we struggle to gain people's ears and empathy.  This is even more the case with the family … Read More […]

  4. […] For some reason, this quote felt incredibly relevant and important today… “Evil is bad.  That is, it is persistently destructive.  But it is also deceitfully subtle.  Consequently, evil rarely shows itself as bad.  In fact, it often portrays itself as helpful, open, kind, generous, long-suffering.” – Bold Love Most of the times when we are abuse victims, we struggle to gain people's ears and empathy.  This is even more the case with the family … Read More […]


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